Diaper Report: 9/11/22

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In my last report, I mentioned looking into a new “memory care” facility for my mom. The term refers to places that care for those with advanced dementia/Alzheimer’s. My mom has one or the other (it’s hard to establish which, apparently, but the symptoms are similar).

The facility she’s in isn’t the greatest, except in one way. It has a look-the-other-way policy about “masks.” I have been able to enter and visit my mom without being told I must participate in Sick Kabuki in order to be allowed to see her. Even the doctor only “masks” perfunctorily.

Well, I was considering moving her to a different facility – one that’s a bit nicer and has things like an aquarium for the people living there to look at. At my mom’s current  place, there is just one single TeeeeVeeee in a common room. There are also some other things I won’t go into in detail. Suffice to say I thought it would be good to find her a nicer place.

And I did. But here’s the dilemma:

The new place – like most of these places – maintains an Extreme Face Diapering Regime (see image embedded with this Report). A “Face Covering”  is REQUIRED AT ALL TIMES. The ALL CAPS are theirs. “Visitors will be asked to leave if face coverings are removed.” And that’s not all. “SOCIAL DISTANCING REQUIRED AT ALL TIMES.” Once again, the ALL CAPS are all theirs. “Visitors must remain behind the marked spot.”

And so I will remain away. So will my mom.

It is also why many are staying away from doctors’ offices and hospitals, where the Sick Cult continues to enforce its bizarre rituals as a condition of entry. There is sick irony in this. How many people have actually died – as opposed to possibly catching a cold – because they didn’t go to the doctor’s or a hospital on account of not wanting to be made to perform these weird – these evil – rituals? They delayed – or were not allowed – and got really sick.

Remember how they “locked down” the hospitals at the height of the mania? Denied care to people who were actually sick – some of them seriously – in order to “stop the spread” of a sickness that for most people amounted to a nasty cold, if they got even that?

And this regime is still largely in place – and at just the places where you’d think it would have been dismantled first. The places where – as they say – The Science determines what is done. Well, we all know what the actual science says about “face coverings.” That is to say, about the medical efficacy of pulling up a neck scarf or using a bandana to “cover” your face. Or using a made-in-Chyna “mask” that doesn’t even claim to prevent the wearer from receiving or giving airborne respiratory cooties.

It says the opposite, right there on the box.

But they still insist people place these medically useless things over their faces as a condition of being allowed within. Because these “coverings” are extremely useful – in terms of establishing Who’s Boss. That you are not in charge. By making you do as they say.

Specifically, by making you do something you (as well as they) know to be absurd. That is the point of the thing, you see. If they can make you stand on one foot and hop around the room while whooping like an Indian war chief – and that’s essentially what they are doing  by making you “mask” – they know they can make you do anything.

It is Theater of the Absurd for a reason.

What the “health care” apparat wants is unquestioning obedience. To everything – to anything – they say. It goes light-years beyond this business of wearing a stupid rag over your face and being made to look (and feel) like an idiot, which is bad enough. It is about establishing the precedent that “doctor’s orders” aren’t debatable.

These “health care” apparatchiks are already de facto agents of the state, enforcing its “mandates” lustily. Even before the “pandemic” they had begun collecting information about us the state is very interested in having, such as whether a patient owns firearms (and how many). This having as much to do with medicine as a medicine man.

They “share” – as it’s styled – private information about you and whatever ails you with the insurance mafia, another arm of the apparat.

All for your own good, of course.

They want to be very sure you “take your meds” – whatever they prescribe – and if you question this, “recalcitrant patient” will be noted in your file. It is all-but-certain that, as this business etiolates, failure to “take your meds” will result in a Hut! Hut! Hut!

That is ultimately what “masking” is all about. It is far from absurd, when it is understood.

The only way out is to have as little to do with these apparatchiks and their apparat as possible, even if it means not seeing the doctor or the inside of a hospital ever again. Whatever might happen to you is not as bad as what will happen to you, if you play their sick game.

For myself, it also means not moving my mom. And if the place where she is resumes the Sick Kabuki, I have accepted I may never see her again. For I will not “mask,” ever.

And never have, either.

If more hadn’t, it is probable none of this would have happened. The fact that it is still happening is the price we’re all of us paying for all of this “masking.” If you’re tired of it  . . . if you want it to stop . . . if you want it to never happen again . . . resolve to never “mask” again, too.

Not for any reason, ever again.

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  1. A couple of weeks ago, my son suffered a concussion in a football game. He is back to normal now, but I had to take him back to the team doctor’s office last Friday to get him cleared.

    They have signs all over the office about “FACE COVERINGS ARE REQUIRED! YOU WILL BE ASKED TO LEAVE!” but no one enforcing it. In fact, many of the doctors and nurses would take theirs off to talk and then put it back on.

    So, son gets into the examination room and the doctor asks him how he feels. My son says he has a slight headache and then shows the doctor “where it hurts” and the doctor says, “That’s not really from your concussion, that’s a sinus headache. Your sinuses must be inflamed.”

    Then he turns to me and asks if he can give my son a covid test!

    I said, “Absolutely not” and then the doctor asked why, I explained that he’s not actually sick now and if he were to accidentally test positive on this test, he’d have to miss school for 5 days and you guys would start treating him like he’s a criminal, so no.

    I ask the doctor, “In the past, if someone complained of a sinus headache, would you have indeed a test or would you have just said, ‘Maybe its allergies or you have a cold’ and left it at that?”

    The doctor is quiet for a few seconds and then says, “I see your point. You’re free to go. See you next time.”

    • Love it:

      “The doctor is quiet for a few seconds and then says, “I see your point. You’re free to go. See you next time.””

      Good job, JR!

  2. Is it possible your mom could move in with you? I know that probably wouldn’t be your favorite idea in the world (I know I wouldn’t be thrilled about that either), especially with a fairly new girlfriend in your life etc. Maybe her income would be enough to bring in health aids or nurses etc so your not a 24/7 caregiver etc. Even a full time person would be cheaper than a nursing home bill if you can figure out how they get paid.

    I know when my grandpa was declining fast, grandma decided to keep him at home and got a nurse in daily to help out (8 hours a day). Thankfully the regular nurse was amazing (days off or holidays were hit or miss with fill inns), and did far more than the job required, aka she was taking care of grandma too, which she didn’t have to do. But grandpa got to live at home at the end and passed away there too which was far better for everyone IMHO. I was hoping we could do the same for grandma, but she ended up at the old folks home.

    My folks are at home (dad is 80 and starting with dementia, mom is 78 and has a bad knee so walking isn’t easy). Was so glad they weren’t living at the old folks home during covid as we wouldn’t have seen them then (would have been very bad mentally for dad). At this point one of my brothers and I have decided (other brother is ambiguous about it, he is dealing with a covid kook of a wife right now) we will do all we can to keep them in their house as long as possible. My one sister in law (she will warehouse her folks when the time comes, yikes) and my dad (if he gets worse) will likely be the hardest part of that happening.

  3. Eric,
    You might want to look into another option…Mexico. I know it sounds like Hans is crazy again after falling from Nakatomi Plaza, but my wife has a client who certifies Elder care facilities. They said when their day comes, they would never go into long term care in the USA. They said Mexico has some elder-long-term care facilities like resorts and a fraction of the cost. Fresh air and sun would be a nice place to be if I had Alzheimer’s. Not sure about how they deal with Covid, but it might be an option to look into?

  4. Retarded question from the Lügenpresse — the old ‘false alternatives’ sales close:

    Should I get the Omicron booster now or wait a few weeks?

    Whenever you roll up your sleeve, it’s important to note that it takes two weeks for the full effect of the booster to hit. LA Times headline today

    Smash the MSM …

  5. BTW, if you do get the dread disease…


    I had some Sodastream tonic mix (contains quinine) in the cupboard. Mixed up a liter yesterday morning and within a few hours my chest loosened up, sinus cavities drained and aches were gone. Slept all night and today fever is gone. I’m doing another liter today just to kill it for good. Only side effect is my tinitus is acting up more than usual. Wish I would have remembered I had it on Friday night.

    So Vitamin D3, C, zinc and quinine. Gin optional. Simple treatment, easy to find and no drama acquiring it.

  6. Hey RG and Eric—RG, I will say, yes people are living longer, that is part of the problem, but all those old relatives lived into their 80’s and still were in their right mind. I think it’s a multitude of things, food, environment, activity level, so many vaxxed now days, etc. It’s not just one thing. My relatives were all farmers, raised their own food, ate out of their garden, cows for milk, etc. These were people born in 1893, 1906. There was no such thing as retirement either, you worked until you died. Larger families back then and most living fairly close to each other helped.
    Eric, the puppy idea is a good one. I’m sure her and the other residents would really enjoy that. Hopefully the facility will let you bring it. Please keep us updated on your mother and the puppy.

  7. Yes! My mom used to love when I brought our dog to the assisted living. It cheered up some of the staff and other residents too. He got to where he knew where her room was and I could let him off his leash when we got around the corner from her room. He would run in before me so my mom got to see him first. There is something about being able to pet a sweet dog that is soothing for people.

  8. I just went to a warehouse-like thrift store that still does the masks in a very “progressive” city. Compliance looked to be 100%. The mask police were on me like fleas starving for a blood meal. “I have a medical condition” got me through the door. A Karen-type quickly found me and offered me one of those blue polypropelene lung busters. She said I could look around but wouldn’t be allowed to check out. There’s no doubt in my mind that theirs is a religion. I always want to ask them if they hate children, since masking is the most abusive to that group.
    I lost a grandmother and a grandfather to alzheimer’s/dementia, so I feel your plight. It’s got to be one of the worst ways to go, as well as the most profitable for the medical industrial complex.
    When autopsies are performed on alzheimer’s victims, aluminum plaques are invariably found in their brains. I feel that it is an environmental illness, caused by things like non-stick pans, prescription drugs, and tap water. I also feel that it is 100% deliberate.

    • Max, are you serious the thrift store would let you browse but not check out without a mask on? How much more evidence do we need to see that these cretins are beyond insane? What business wants you to look at their merchandise without buying it? And if they’re so scared of germs, then why let you walk around spreading them throughout the store for half an hour or more, only to be turned away at the checkout line? Retards all of them!

      BTW, if any business tells you, “It’s our policy that you must wear a mask,” be sure and respond, “It’s my policy to not wear them. And since I’m the customer–and the customer is always right–you are obligated to honor my policy over yours.”

    • Thanks, Max –

      And: What state did this “encounter” occur in? I know there are still a few areas where “masks” are expected but I was unaware there were places that still require them…

      • It was The Scrap Exchange in Durham, NC. I’ll never be back. They are added to the short list, which includes Reader’s Corner in Raleigh and Great Clips in Youngsville.

        • Hi Max,

          Three places I’ll never spend a cent on again are: Sweet Donkey coffee shop (Roanoke), Plato’s Closet (also Roanoke; they sell clothing “seconds”) and SuperCuts (where I was a customer for 15 years but never will be again).

          I hope they choke on their Diapers and that the “vaccines” they took – and wanted to force on us – do their work.

    • Max,
      Virtually every vaccine has both Aluminum and Mercury in them. To stimulate an immune response to the vaccine which doesn’t contain any thing your immune system views as especially dangerous. There are abundant “illnesses” that could be attributed to the build up of both. Ever increasing auto immune diseases and deteriorating mental capacity among them.

      • That’s what I was going to say, John- aluminum and mercury in the vaccines (for many decades now).

        I used to be weary of aluminum and non-stick cookware myself (And I still avoid both)- but after seeing my mother and grandmother using both for decades (Grandma is long dead, but my mother is currently 97, and still pretty sharp!) I’m not so sure about that one. (Aluminum, yes….but likely not enough is transfered from the cookware to the food to affect the noggin- but I’m not willing to chance it- ‘specially when there are so many better things to cook in- and a well-seasoned cast-iron pan is just as non-stick as Teflon…but can also be scrubbed.)

        • RE: “(Grandma is long dead, but my mother is currently 97, and still pretty sharp!)”

          Might be due to what type of spatula they used? Metal ones gouge it, scouring pads, too. Plastic ones, don’t. Who knows? Aluminum pans prolly play a role, too. Again, who knows?
          A culmination, seems most likely? Idk.

          Cast iron, has its drawbacks, as well, however; I still use ’em:


          Also, don’t forget the dangers of Root Canals & x-rays:


          Frickin’ compounding poisonous toxic world.

          [It’s a bit amazing to me how much we see some things quite the same way, yet at the same time we’re on opposite poles on other subjects. …One of us is correct, eh.] Ah well, live & let live.

          • Ironically, Helot, my mother does use a metal spatula on non-stick, and I’ve tried to get her to use a plastic one to no avail!

            Don’t even get me started on the evils of dentistry! I’ve known anyone who ultimately had any good come of a root canal (Other than the denti$t)- and I can safely say that the only teeth I
            ve ever had trouble with, were ones which they drilled holes in when I was a kid because some X-ray showed a cavity. As an adult, I’ll just wait till I have something that can be seen with the naked eye, or which I can feel. The idea of using an X-ray as an excuse to DRILL A HOLE in your tooth, is just absurd. No other teeth have gone bad except for the drilled ones. Would they have gone bad if they hadn’t been drilled? Maybe yes..maybe no- but even if they would have, so what have would I have lost, seeing as they went bad anyway, right?! I stay away from the dentist, unless I have trouble with one of those teeth that they ruined when I was a kid.

            • I use metal spatulas on nonstick pans. They were my grandmother’s, and she gave them to me when she moved out of her home to live with my uncle and aunt. Some of these spatulas and utensils are 60+ years old and are in great shape. I figured most of them were probably made in the USSA during the good ole days when craftmanship mattered. I consider them a lot safer than the cheap ass plastic spatulas manufactured in China. Who the hell knows what chemicals and compounds were used. Since my grandmother is 90+ years of age and still kicking I figured it couldn’t hurt.

              • Hehe, yeah RG- can’t argue with my mother, since she’s 97 and I’m not…and if I were to make it to 97[hope not!] I don’t think I’d be in as good a shape as she is in. But yeah, who knows what these newer Chinky pans are made of?

  9. This is sick. What kind of compassionate care can you provide someone when your face is masked and you can’t get closer than 6 feet? People need smiles; the warmth of a touch or a hug. For those in the final stages of their lives, they need these expressions of love. Without it, they will die earlier – feeling alone and rejected.

    Jesus ignored the crazies of his day. He reached out to the untouchables – the sick, the dying, the lepers. He was chastised. He did it anyway.

    So sorry for this.

  10. If/when you must endure the western medical apparat, you gotta learn to let of the “honesty to a fault” trip. These are not your friends. Ever drink alcohol? No. Ever smoke? No. How often do you have sex? Unprotected/Protected? abstinent.

    Every been diagnosed with *any* of the following list? No.

    Fuck ’em. Don’t give those bastards one iota of information about you. If you must go in and be subjugated, stick to the event at hand and volunteer/divulge NOTHING.

    Now, on the other hand, you might want to seek an alternative medicine practitioner for other common ailments. I know that I harp on this. Yes, my wife is one but you can’t have her. Find your own.

    Now, there have become a large number of alt med practitioners that buy the bullshit. You’ve got to be on your game. If they talk about masks or vax poisoning like it’s some normal/beneficial thing KEEP MOVING. You can find someone else.

    Learn about how you can keep yourself well as possible. Western medicine is not your friend. They’ve firmly positioned themselves as your mortal enemy. They drew “first blood” — act accordingly.

  11. Holy shit! All those rules just to visit someone?! That is absurd! Only a society of Nazis could allow life to get to the point where THAT could exist- and not even be thought of as absurd by most- but on the contrary, they’d look at us as being abnormal for not dutifully obeying, or even thinking it strange that one should have to follow such a litany of procedures just to accomplish the simple human action of visiting someone!

    I find the Alzheimer’s vs. dementia thing interesting too. Apparently, as is the case with so many other conditions these days, there is no way to identify and confirm the presence of an actual disease, other than the presence of symptoms- symptoms which are very common to many conditions, or just the deterioration of bodily function which comes with age.

    I know someone who’s dealing with this with her sister right now, and although she is schlocking her sister around to endless doctors and hospitals and shrinks, there is no overall consensus; no pathogen to detect, and despite a lot of money being spent, of course the sister is no better off than before she started making the rounds to be diagnosed and “helped”- and the only thing that has actually been done is the prescribing of DRUGs…which seem to do nothing, except add physical symptoms to the mental ones!
    On the positive side:

    An aquarium?! Gee! I’d want to go there, sans the Kabuki! I’d rather die wandering out in a field than be in some place where a TV is wailing all day….but darn, I could sit and watch the fishies swim…it’d be nice and calming. What a thoughtful idea that was.

    And Eric? You’ve been putting some great cartoons in these articles lately! This “School of Quackery” one, and the “One Size Fits All” shop, a few articles back have been especially great!

  12. So sorry about your mom Eric, sadly I don’t think the sickness Kabuki is ever going away. The PTB are looking for any excuse to lock us down again, if a new “variant” doesn’t show up soon they’ll be sure to put one out there from whatever germ warfare lab has one. Saw on Dr. Mercola’s site that some mad scientists have reconstructed the 1918 flu virus, what could possibly go wrong? Guess that’s the next one to “escape” a lab since covid wasn’t as deadly as they hoped for.

  13. Health care facilities for the elderly is a humane way to manage the final years, months, weeks.

    Facilities to house people who are not all there is humane treatment, mentally and physically challenged individuals need to be cared for 24/7, can’t be avoided. You need trained people to work the field, a social setting is imperative. Human life is that important, however, it is not necessarily sacred.

    One of my many jobs was to work with people who were either mentally or physically handicapped, they have to live and parents/relatives cannot do the job.

    One client could count to 20 and after that, he didn’t know what to say, didn’t know the next number. He could not do it. One part of the job was to survey clients to determine their mental capacities. You knew all were deficient in at least one area.

    One full moonlit night, the entire group stood in a circle late into the evening, all cried and wailed in unison. They knew their plight, the unfortunate circumstances surrounding their existence. I thought I was at Herod’s Wailing Wall.

    I was also handing out prescription medicine like it was candy.

    Didn’t take much to realize that it was the wrong way to care for people who were in dire need. They were doing it for a shitload of money, medicine pays.

    Much too stressful of an occupation and resigned after six months. To digress the message some.

    Eventually, as you age, you will weaken, your muscles become atrophied, then you probably won’t be able to stand, you are so weak that you can no longer hold yourself up and will need constant care.

    It happens, does happen, you are so old you can’t even sit in a chair, you’ll fall off.

    You can have a stroke and be in a wheelchair unable to even stand.

    In the end, apoptosis sets in and you will expire. A stroke is probably a precursor there.

    Some will mourn, some will ridicule.

    “Lizzies in a box,” chanted the Irish just the other day.

    Apparently, the British Royals’ lives aren’t all that sacred.

    Recommended beverage of the day: Crooked Tree IPA from Dark Horse Brewing.

  14. Sorry you have to make a terrible choice. I know a family that is going through long-term care of their mother and are insisting that they keep her at home, mostly because “it’s too expensive” to take her to a longterm care facility. The kids all take a shift caring for her, which sounds noble enough, but really has caused a big rift between the kids who live nearby and those who don’t. The nearby kids feel they’re being exploited by the kids who are 2+ hours away (most of them are retired teachers, BTW). The mother is bedridden and pretty much paralized, sleeps 20 hours a day and will soon need mechanical assistance to continue living.

    But on a slightly less depressing note, I finally got the COVID! Last week I attended a drone conference in Las Vegas. Over 2000 attendees from all over the world… except for the drone manufacturer with 40% of the global market, DJI (AKA the Chinese toy company). So far it feels like a cold. In fact I figured that was all it was, but then I developed a fever and my employer requires me to self-report any symptoms (one of which is a fever) every day before work, so I took a test to make sure. So now I’m off until at least Wednesday. I wasn’t sure how I would react to having COVID with regard to isolation and not going out. On one hand there’s the fact that it is just a stupid head cold. On the other, I don’t want to get other people sick, even just a cold. So I’ll stay home for a few days and probably order some stuff online for pick up in the parking lot.

    Certainly no reason to upend society for sure.

  15. A choice between going to doctor Mengele, or treating yourself. Thank you very much Psychopaths In Charge.
    I have some experience with doctors in a social setting. Many are outraged when a person does not strictly follow their directions. They will go on and on about it. As if that person’s health was their possession, and you have no business living as you see fit. It really aggravates them that I smoke and drink, but my blood pressure remains that of a young healthy man, being 68.
    Perhaps I’m out of place, which probably means I am, but is your mother cognizant enough to appreciate her surroundings, such as an aquarium? Is she, and her room, kept reasonably clean where she is? My two cents worth, which is probably overpriced.

  16. What you observe applies to me. I have not been to the doc since all this began due to masking.
    I will not be going back, possibly ever.

    How can I trust anyone to give sound medical advice if they are either (a) stupid enough to believe masks have any positive effect or (b) just do whatever wrong they are told?

    • Dan,
      I as well. They can’t be trusted. I doubt its beneath them to sneak vaxx into you while you’re there. The last time I went was with a nasty gash on my leg. The nurse stuck a needle in my arm. I asked her what it was. A DPT vaxx. What for, I asked. For tetanus. In the first place, having many injuries my self working construction most of my working life, in a dirty environment, and being around many others so injured, without hospital care, I never new or heard of any cases of tetanus. Nor did I suffer any special risk of pertussis or diphtheria. Just another pay day for Pharma.

      • John Kable – re: sneaking vaxx, happened to me. My usually reasonable doc asked when my last tetanus shot was, I never remember getting one. “Should do it”, I agreed thinking back to kid years scared of lockjaw yore of friends.

        It wasn’t just tetanus it was the DPT you referenced. I have never been so sick in my life, so bad the wife and daughter were about to take me to emergency. Got through it on my own swore off any more “boosters”. This was about 5 years ago. He never bugged me about the clot shot.

        I got the ‘Vid last month, sick for 12 hours then like flipping a switch no more sick. Lingering cough for a week, that was it. Supplements did the trick.

        • HAhaha! Love it when someone mentions tetanus shots!

          “You should get a tetanus shot”.

          Yeah…I used to cut my hands virtually every week when I used to rebuild engines. Hands that were covered in grease and gunk. I’d sometimes use grease to stop the bleeding…. If I was being really hypochondriacal, I’d have my dog lick the boo-boo when I got home. Never had an infection, much less lockjaw……

          • RE: “I’d have my dog lick the boo-boo when I got home.”

            No way, I let that happen. I read about bad sheet happening as a result. It destroys the protective scab, I think.

            … The DPT, I think that shot fucked my body up a bit from getting it. Decades ago, that was my initial experience of learning how Western medicine is off the rails Voodoo bat-shit nuts and biased towards protecting the big fat Big Pharma paycheck they get. YMMV, I suppose. I doubt it, though.

            • I never looked it up before, “From 2001-2008, 233 cases of tetanus were reported in the United States, meaning a 95% reduction since 1947. Deaths from the disease had decreased by 99% since that year” …


              Sorta looks a bit like polio, it’s more to do with indoor plumbing, clean water, and better food than anything else. Idk.

              (Thank you, plumbers and the free market.)

              • I’d want to look into those figures, Helot- but even if they’re true, it likely has a lot to do with the fact that in 1947, lots of men were still cowboys, farmers (Not hi-tech agriculture computerized machinery operators), fabricators and factory workers, etc. -AND I’ll bet incluyded in that statistic (likely compiled from years preceding ) were cases among WWII soldiers (Bullets and grenades would probably be a good way to actually get tetanus…and the the subject is likely to die with tetanus…like the people today who die with‘COVID’. (‘A case of tetanus’ like a ‘case of COVID’- Hmmm..they may’ve been using that trick long before our time…)

            • Dogs saliva is antibiotic- ‘long as they haven’t been eating any doody or dead birds or anything in the recent past…. Yeah, if it was scabbed-over already though, then I’d skip the doggie therapy… All I know is when I was a kid, and my mother used to fuss over every scratch and wash it, and put alcohol, etc. et.c it would almost always get infected…but never since. One of the keys is to let a wound bleed a little before ever touching it…that blood coming out just carries away any contaminants.

              -60 years old and haven’t had an infection or problem since i was a kid. Can’t argue with what works.

  17. Eric—-can they not have a TV in their room? That doesn’t sound right. Does your mother like to read, is she able to read and remember what she read and even enjoy it? What does she do all day? Do they have activities for the residents? Are you able to take her out to eat? Take her on little day trips?
    I like the part about turning their heads on no masks.
    I’m sure you have looked everywhere you can, but surely there has got to be a nicer place that also doesn’t worry about the mask.
    Very frustrating I know.

    • Hi Elaine,

      The current place is very spartan. The rooms have beds and a dresser drawer, a few pictures – that’s it. My mom is no longer capable of understanding how to work a TV. She cannot read, either. Most of the other people in the facility are similar. She is fully ambulatory, though – which depresses the hell out of me. If she had her mind, she could live independently, or with a little assistance. But her mind is now a kind of shattered collage of disconnected memories. The real ones overtaken by imagined ones. She recognizes me – and also my sister. But she does not know who her grand-daughter is. She seems happy to see us, but we can no longer talk. Or rather, she is unable to understand and respond. Random words, jumbled. Nothing that makes any sense. We sit with her and tell her what we’re doing but doubt she has any comprehension. Still, she likes that we are present – and I always bring her something she likes, such as cheesecake.

      I am happy I can still visit. I hope that does not change. Thanks for the kind words!

      • Eric,
        Makes me count my blessings. My late father, who died 2 years ago at 91, remained capable of taking care of himself to the very end, and died at home alone, my mother having passed several years ago from Osteoporosis. A horrible death that took several years. Probably because of years of over prescription of steroids to combat her allergies. He had some cognitive decline, which I would expect at that age, but he was capable of conversing.

        • Thanks, John –

          My Dad’s last two years were horrible. Bed-bound, essentially crippled. But his mind was all there. That’s the worst, in my opinion. I tell Dawn that, when my time approaches, I hope she will help me throw a leg over my bike one last time… and I will take care of the rest. She gets mad when I say this, of course.

          • Eric,
            I’ve instructed my son similarly. I’ve got a house with a number of tools in it, and I don’t expect any of them to leave.

      • Hi Eric,

        I am sorry to hear what you are doing through. We are experiencing the same with my paternal grandmother. It is hard to watch, and one feels like their hands are tied, because so little can be done. My grandmother cries at a drop of a hat now. Fortunately, she does recognize us and is mobile, but her mind is that of a four-year-old. She no longer comprehends what is currently happening or is able to follow along in conversations. She gets easily frustrated easily and lashes out at the smallest things. I watched my grandfathers’ go through the same thing before they passed. Aging is not for the weak.

        If you don’t mind me asking what is the reason for moving out of the current facility? If she and her room are not being taken care, then yes, you have to relocate her for her own health and safety. If it lack of activities, certain luxuries, etc. she probably not does even notice.

        • Thanks, RG –

          In re the place my mom’s in my right now: It’s not terrible but it is depressing. The residents are taken care of, physically, but there is literally nothing for them to do but sit in chairs and stare into space. Nothing to see, either. This other place has a big fish tank and I thought that might lift her spirits or at least give her something to see. But they are militant about their Sickness Kabuki and I know myself well enough to know not to put myself (or her) in a situation that might result in something I wouldn’t regret but which might result in me not being here, doing what I do…

          • Eric,
            How long could you play mask theater going to see her until you started finding excuses not to go see her? Or lost your mind? Her mind is already lost, sad to say. Yours isn’t, and you should endeavor to keep it. Hope that isn’t too pointed for you in this trying time. I’m occasionally guilty of that.

          • Hi Eric,

            Noble is out in California, so I am assuming your sister would like your mom out there with her. Southern CA vs Southern VA is definitely a difference of environments. The rules that you posted are pretty odious. I believe criminals have more freedom than the nursing care residents. Visitation from fifteen to twenty minutes 2 x a week sounds like BS.

            On the other hand, the facility looks nice. It appears the residents are in residential homes rather than a large corporate facility. She would be in a small group with like-minded people around her age, and they seem to focus on keeping residents occupied and active.

            You have a hard decision to make, but it boils down to one question – is it the best place for your mom? I can sympathize with you being torn against your belief system vs the rules of the facility, but which place would offer her the best quality of life? Also, would she be up for traveling that distance? That is quite a hike.

      • Hey Eric—I went back and clicked on the rules you posted for the place you checked out—because I didn’t know what RG was talking about with the visitation, etc. That place does sound terrible. I am so sorry for you and your mother.
        Two things, can you take her out to eat where she is now? If so, that might help. Since TV and books are out, could you get her one of those picture frames that have the slide show type thing going on. You could load it up with a lot of family pictures and she might enjoy watching that some. Okay, one more thing, I would think surely to goodness they would have some kind of activity —or several—planned for every day for the residents.
        I don’t understand why so many elderly people have dementia/alzheimers now days. When I was a kid, I was around a lot of older people when we went to visit grandparents. There was never any talk about anyone having dementia. And I know all the older people I was around were in their right mind. Of course Alzheimers hadn’t been ‘invented’ yet—or peanut allergies, lol. People now days just think of dementia as a natural part of aging, but it isn’t.
        I wonder if putting a puzzle together would be too frustrating for her? Get one with big pieces and not too many of them. You could go visit and help her put it together. Surely they have a common area for something like that.
        You and her are in a tough spot. She definitely needs something to keep her mind occupied for at least part of the day. Does she have any friends her age that are still around? You might could call them and see if they will go visit her. Is she a member of a church? If so, they might have a group that could visit her. Our church has a group of women that go visit the elderly that aren’t able to come to church anymore, called the Homebound. I will keep you both in my prayers.

        • Hi Elaine

          I think the rise in dementia/Alzheimer cases is a symptom of people living longer. Some are fortunate and are able to age with their faculties in tact, others aren’t so lucky. A case could definitely be made of environment and the deterioration of the mind. I am sure what we eat and the strain and stress that we put our bodies through over a lifetime will affect the brain.

          Based on my experience with my grandparents is they notice very little of their surroundings, their head has taken inside a place that only they can comprehend. Simple questions like if they want a cheeseburger or a hotdog can lead to bouts of aggravation for the patient because their head is trying to determine what those items are. Other times they have flashes of clarity and you are able to see the individual that they once were.

          Trying to keep them active though is important. You made some excellent suggestions and hopefully these can be implemented. I have found pet therapy is also good. Who doesn’t like puppies?

          • Morning, RG!

            I’ve been thinking about bringing the new dog to see my mom – once he’s civilized. He’s not there yet. He’s still 90 pounds of jumping/frantic seven month old puppy… but my mom loves dogs, so I bet a visit would make her happy and maybe the other people there would like it as well. I plan to ask the staff.

            • Hi Eric,

              Are you able to check her out of the facility? Sometimes a change in their day can perk up anyone’s disposition. A picnic in the park, a small restaurant during off hours, a nature walk, even just a drive looking at the scenery and maybe pick up lunch at a food truck or cafe. Something that doesn’t overstimulate them and has very few people around. Just an hour or two for a change of scenery every few weeks.

          • Hi RG,
            I believe that the idea of “people living longer” is a myth- supported by the fact that statistics are skewed because infant mortality has been reduced over the last 100 years or so. Ever been to an old cemetery? Look at the gravestones- plenty of people 100-200 years ago living into their 80’s and 90’s- and leading much harder lives without all of the deathhealthcare, good sanitation and ‘retirement’ incomes people have today.

            Even when I was a kid in the 70’s, it was rare to see someone in their 70’s-90’s who was senile (And I interacted with a lot of old people). If I had to guess, I’d say that the widespread ubiquitous use of vaccines, and other meds, coupled with a debauched diet, and a sedentary lifestyle are likely to blame for the exponential increase in senility/Alzheimer’s/dementia.

            I’ve personally observed )Errr, I mean “anecdotally” LOL) of the many people who have lived/are living to be quite among my relatives, that the things they all have in common seem to be such factors as: They largely if not entirely managed to avoid childhood vaccinations; Most of them did not own a car for most or all of their lives, and thus walked a lot; no abuse of alcohol/drugs, no or very little smoking (My aunt who died at 95 in perfect faculties had a slight touch of COPD from smoking half a pack a day for 70 years), and virtually all of the women were housewives who never worked outrside the home, while the men were self-employed and or worked outdoors, and took a very casual attitude towards work, so as to minimize the time they devoted to it (Whereas those who worked long hours or at 9-5 jobs their entire lives all died in their 70’s)- And thankfully, there has only been one case of Alzheimer’s/etc. in one aunt…but she one who died in her 70’s- The long livers have not suffered such ailments. My 97 year-old mother is still quite sharp.

            As for the living-longer thing:

            Joshua 14:10-12 (c. 1250 BC.)
            Caled, the son of Jephunneh: “and now, lo, I am this day fourscore and five years old ((85)). 11As yet I am as strong this day as I was in the day that Moses sent me: as my strength was then, even so is my strength now, for war, both to go out, and to come in. 12Now therefore give me this mountain, whereof the LORD spake in that day; for thou heardest in that day how the Anakims were there, and that the cities were great and fenced: if so be the LORD will be with me, then I shall be able to drive them out, as the LORD said.”

            • Holy crap, all the typos! Sorry…am in the midst of doing some plumbing! (If that’s a valid excuse, Mike+in+Boston would be a near-illiterate! 😀 )


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